‘Sure, I don’t mind’—those words signaled the start of a month that spiraled out of control. If only I knew what I knew now – I would have listened when my body froze at that moment. But I didn’t – and you know what – it cost me.

August has taught me a powerful lesson: I must trust myself, even if it means risking relationships. I’ve grown tired of sacrificing my thoughts and feelings just to keep certain people and environments in my life. As we transition into a new season, I’m committed to shifting this mindset, forgiving myself, and moving forward. Does life get easier? At all?

I often find myself wishing I had a strong relationship with my parents, someone to guide me through these tough moments. But that’s not my story, and if you’re like me, here’s how I’m creating space for growth without compromising my values:

Leaning on Mentors: While I may lack parental guidance, I’m grateful for the mentors who offer support and wisdom. They are in my life for a reason and I must stop forgetting that.

Trusting My Instincts: This month, I ignored my gut feeling and am now paying the price for it. I don’t want to repeat that mistake. I’m learning to listen to my body’s reactions and honor them.

Being Intentional: My girl Kota must be a motivational speaker. She recently reminded her social media community that as we age, we need to be deliberate about our environments. We can’t afford to waver.

To my fellow adopted Black girls: don’t waver. You’ve worked too hard to understand your emotions, build relationships, and create safe spaces. The people who truly love you will stay.

We can no longer feel guilty for honoring ourselves. It might be uncomfortable and new, but it’s necessary. August taught me to trust my gut. Let’s carry that lesson into September and beyond.

Everything I share with you I am learning and some lessons are hitting harder than others. I am not without flaws and if you think I have it all figured out – I don’t. I am committed to making changes though, I owe myself that and you do too.

From my workspace with love,

Teisha