This week, I didn’t follow my own advice and came to the same tough lesson once again: sometimes, being kind without boundaries will leave you overlooked. Not just by others but by yourself. You start to think – what was going on? Like forreal – what was going on?

There’s a line in Roddy Ricch’s Survivor’s Remorse that hits home: “If I had a dollar for every time someone said I fell off, I’d be a billionaire.” It makes me think about all those times I let someone or something sidetrack me—whether by letting my emotions lead or by staying so quiet I lost sight of who I am. And honestly? I’m done with that. The seasons are changing and so are harmful habits.

Have you been there before? Cause girl I’m tired. If you feel me, aren’t you tired of overthinking for someone else’s gain or people-pleasing until you’re drained? Accountability is essential, and I’ve taken mine. But it’s okay to recognize that there are always two people in any relationship, dynamic, situation, etc.—and sometimes, it takes a while to see the truth of a situation. I honestly don’t want to keep going through the same cycle.

So let me tell you – it’s time to remind myself of the promises I made back when I was 25, right after that breakup before the pandemic:

1. Don’t let anyone steal your joy—it’s one-of-a-kind, just like you.
2. If someone says they don’t deserve you, believe them—the first time.
3. Tears don’t stay. They’re temporary, and you have bigger things ahead.
4. You have successes to reach. Don’t lose sight of that.

I know I get frustrated with myself sometimes, but here’s the truth: frustration can be fuel. Where we put our energy matters, and it can push us forward. Moments and feelings pass; they’re meant to be understood, but they don’t get to take over.

I am currently traveling back to Boston after spending time home and this is just the reframe I needed being in the city that raised me. See ya’ll next week.

From my hotel with love,

Teish