I am taking a break and I mean like a true break. I am logging off the socials, off work, and taking a step back to answer some long-awaited questions.

Y’all know that Zora Neale Hurston quote that says “There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” While last year was my question year, this one seems to be moving towards answers.

Have you ever been there?

Getting answers to things that you thought you were prepared for but weren’t?

What if I told you that you can finally stop living in the abyss?

Many of us who grew up in adopted homes and have now grown to be Black women in society know what it’s like to be in the shadow, even if it is of our own making.

When’s the last time you let the sun shine on you? Do you know how?

Think about that for me and let me know what your answer is.

So what will this break for me entail?

Well, a few things:

• I am burnt out, and I knew this was a long time coming. But just like I tell you all, you do not have to do everything for everyone. At the end of the day, to know yourself is to make the best decisions for yourself.

• I aim to get back in touch with my friendships and relationships. You know how I’ve been telling you all to forgive? Well, it’s hard, right? As someone who literally studies conflict for a living, I have done two things—released animosity over things I can’t control and seen gentleness towards all those who have touched my life, left my life, and are still in my life.

Shoutout to this book we read in my Christian Social Club—The Fruit of the Spirit.

• Coffee and vlogs. I know what makes me happy—storytelling through morning coffee, and so I am bringing only those subscribed on the journey with me. All July, I will be active with my subscribers only—from video to affirmations.

You all have been clear on what you all want from me: inspirational messages, dear adopted Black girl messages, and still photos? Like okay, y’all! But we have so much to chat about, and I am looking forward to diving deeper into those conversations, exploring our shared experiences, challenges, and triumphs.

Dear adopted Black girl, I see you, and let’s keep chatting.

But also I’ve been thinking – should I say dear adopted Black girls and women? Or just keep dear adopted Black girls – I don’t want the premise to be missed. Let me know what you think!

From my room with love,

Teish