Adopted Black Girl

Love and support for adopted Black girls show up as accountability. Accountability to ourselves. Accountability in our actions. Accountability in follow-through.

Support lives in community, courage, and solidarity—in showing up for one another even when we are okay. It’s bystander intervention at its core. Because negligence toward adopted Black girls can leave us feeling deeply desolate, and that negligence shows up in many forms.

It looks like not listening to our voices.
It looks like forcing opinions onto our lived experiences.
It looks like refusing to believe Black girls—period.

As a community, we have to address this and adjust.

Support for adopted Black girls starts with believing us—and I mean truly believing us. If a bill is passed that goes against our rights, read it before debating it. If you see harmful content online, report it—there’s no need to go back and forth in the comments.

For years—especially during my time deeply engaged in the Black adoptee community—I’ve seen people engage online but act differently in real life. We need support both online and offline, because most of the harm doesn’t happen on the internet.

It happens in foster homes (not all, but many).
It happens in one-on-one meetings.
It happens in cars, appointments, and closed spaces where no one is watching.

Being forced to shrink yourself—to live in a shell of who you are—is harmful. It’s isolating. Deeply isolating.

This is why support matters. Belief matters. It encourages us to not shrink and when we are believed – we shine easier.

So before I close this blog, I have a request for a call to action.

A fellow adoptee, @OutspokenAdoptee, is currently being targeted by a man named Karlos Dillard. He has made threats against her life online. While there has been back-and-forth on social media, the situation has escalated, and her safety is not being taken seriously. She is in danger.

The internet can twist narratives, but the harm must stop.

If you are in Arizona—or know someone in Arizona—please help amplify this, report this individual, and support efforts to ensure her safety.

Care and protection start with this community.
Now is the time to show it.

From my writing corner with urgency,

Teish