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Okay… I guess this is what my life has come to. It’s Friday night, and instead of being out, I’m watching Whitney Houston interviews and old performances — trying to understand what made the greats so great. I already know the obvious answers. The artistry. The work ethic. The kindness. The passion. I know there…
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Can’t continue into June without sharing a few of my fav photos from May! Let’s take a look! Album of the month: See you in the blog this weekend. From my photo gallery with love. Teisha
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The thought came to me while I was driving to the gym: You’re not losing your mind. You may just need community. And it hit me—my community has slowly been built through my routines. I saw a post once that said: “People won’t always come to you. Just keep doing the things you love and…
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Nothing changes if you are in a body you reject.” – Devi Brown Oh my God. I hold so much trauma in my body. Jesus. I need to stretch. Like actually stretch—not just physically, but emotionally. I need to remind my trainer to build in a stretch routine at our next session, because something’s sitting…
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How good do you have to be to just… be loved?Isn’t being alive enough? Or does it have to come with a price?The whole world is expensive—why does love have to be too? It’s frustrating.Girl, I know.But let me tell you something: adoptive parents need to grow up.And it is not your job to always…
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When my mom told me I couldn’t come back and stay with her in her home whenever I visited, I was annoyed.Like, I’ve been hurt before, but this? I was annoyed. I mean, I get it. After moving back home, having disagreements, and getting fired in 2023, I understand why she might want her space.…
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Everyone loves to tell you that your parents’ choices — the circumstances, the lies, the discoveries, the highs, the everyday mess — is “normal.” behavior. But it’s not. Normal is just whatever sits comfortably in the status quo, and let’s be real: kinship, foster care, and adoption are anything but the status quo. We don’t…
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Girl. We made it to April.We. Are. Here. Can we just take a second to soak that in?You and me—we made it. Remember back in January when you weren’t even sure you’d make it through the week, let alone the year? But here you are. Still breathing. Still showing up. Still becoming. This month, may…
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Choosing to live again has been one of the most joyful experiences of my life—but it all started with a single decision: to actually want to live. At the beginning of 2024, I was anxious, depressed, and wondering if happiness was even possible for me. Then, one day in late May, I decided I wanted…
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I told myself that earlier this week when I started missing someone who used to be in my life. It wasn’t so much that I missed them—it was the memories. The moments that once felt safe, warm, and familiar. And then, just as quickly, I remembered the neglect. The way I sacrificed my dignity and…
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If I asked you to describe your perfect day, what would you say? A perfect day doesn’t mean everything goes right. It means you did what you wanted to do, and despite any obstacles, when you sat down at the end of the night, you smiled and felt at peace. For a long time, I…
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Hey, y’all! As I’ve gotten older (p.s. my birthday is coming up) life has felt more routine and nuanced. Or maybe my nervous system finally decided to chill out—who knows? Anyway, how has the start of your year been? My students come back this week, and while I’m geared up and ready for the classroom,…
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Who Do You Want to Be in 2025? The way he asks me these questions makes me feel… seen. My younger self feels seen, too, and I’m not sure if I welcome it or if it scares me. I put down the magazine I was flipping through, took a sip of my tea, and looked…
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Hey, y’all! Welcome back to Adopted Black Girl! It’s been a minute, but I’m so glad to be here with you again. Life has been busy, but I’ve missed connecting with this amazing community of Black adoptees—especially those of us navigating the complexities of kinship adoption. Today, we’re talking about something real: the holidays. They…
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This week, I didn’t follow my own advice and came to the same tough lesson once again: sometimes, being kind without boundaries will leave you overlooked. Not just by others but by yourself. You start to think – what was going on? Like forreal – what was going on? There’s a line in Roddy Ricch’s…
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As adoptees, we’re often told how grateful we should be. From a young age, we hear things like, “You’re lucky someone took you in,” or “It could’ve been worse.” Those words can feel heavy—especially when you’re still trying to figure out who you are, where you belong, and what parts of yourself to embrace. I’ve…
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Let me pour into you for five minutes with some affirmations and a quick quick story time. Happy end of September and start of October. What are some affirmations that you have for yourself this week? Let me know below. From my room with love, Teisha
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‘Sure, I don’t mind’—those words signaled the start of a month that spiraled out of control. If only I knew what I knew now – I would have listened when my body froze at that moment. But I didn’t – and you know what – it cost me. August has taught me a powerful lesson:…
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Hey y’all – I’m back with another video. Mother’s Day as an adoptee can cause many feelings to brew- join me as I discuss how I have reframed Mother’s Day through a lens of understanding and grace despite it all. Let me know if you resonate with anything said in the video. I love you…
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Am I anxious or do I feel lost in life? Am I depressed because I’m learning how to be still or am I grieving the chaos that I am used to? In this podcast post, I want to talk about clarity and how being frozen in feelings can hinder your growth or even different parts…
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I need the person who said the 30 somethings were more welcoming than the 20s to come to the front – IMMEDIATELY😂 It’s been quite a journey these last few months. Staring over isn’t easy but it is essential to the next levels in your life. If you’re currently going through this type of season,…
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Growing up, I found myself navigating a household where verbal expressions of love were sparse. At the time I didn’t realize how it would affect me in the long run, but now I am finding out. While my adoptive mother showed her affection through actions, I longed to hear the words “I love you.” This…
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February always brings about a sense of reflection for me – it’s my birthday month, marking another year of growth, questions, and curiosity. This year, as I transition into a new decade, that introspection feels particularly poignant. Approaching the big 3-0, I realized I no longer want to speculate about my family dynamics; I want…
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Three years ago, the notion of exchanging motivational quotes with my birth father would have prompted a chuckle and a swift change of subject. What changed? Time Three years. It went fast. If you’ve just stumbled upon my blog, welcome! This post holds a special significance as it marks three years since the inception of…
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Explore the latest TikTok trend sweeping through 2024—what’s in and what’s out. As a trend girly (don’t judge me), I couldn’t resist joining in on the creativity. But let’s take it a step further and delve into my 2024 Ins/Outs -Kinship Care edition. The conversation around kinship adoption/care must continue to shift forward this year…
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In the echoes of silence surrounding Black women adoptees’ experiences, I’ve noticed a pattern – a pattern of gaslighting and demands for proof of trauma. When Black women adoptees speak out, we often encounter skepticism. If we remain silent, the risk is the erasure of our experiences and the constriction of our narrative. This blog…
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Hey y’all, I wanted to do something different this week and get more personable. The message is in the vlog. Oh snap – we have a vlog…on the blog?!! *chuckles* Anyway, let me know what you think of this format in the comments. HERE IS MY TWITTER THREAD REFERENCED IN THE VIDEO. From my place…
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I can’t believe it’s about to be November. Did 2023 even let us breathe? This is the time of year in my 9-5 when my students get antsy, overwhelmed, and mentally tired. Meetings are building up, roommate conflicts are brewing, and lunch never semes to be an entire hour. (Reminder, please eat your lunch). *Great…
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I am sending deep love to my Palestinian and Israeli communities. The loss of loved ones, attacks on innocent lives, and the seizure of basic needs (water, food, healthcare supplies etc) is a humanitarian crisis. To have a heart is to know that this cannot be ignored especially for my fellow adoptees who are feeling…
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I can completely understand why you chose to not advocate for yourself when the adults in your life shut you down every time you tried. I completely understand why you hesitate to ask for what you need and fear retaliation when you speak up about what’s wrong. I completely understand the fear behind your eyes…
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September was such a fun month. It included travel, redecorating my new office, photographing a wedding, and finding a new favorite coffee shop. In September I explored. I entertained the lesson of intentional flow and I realized the power to shift and switch patterns when I needed. I have been so intrigued with my self-awareness…
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*giggles* – I know it feels like forever since we have talked. Because it has been. Lots of thoughts and growth have happened since I been away for a few months. When I first started this blog, I knew I wanted more spaces for Black adoptees who identified as young or adult women to breathe, feel…
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I have been thinking a lot about family lately, simply because I am entering the stage of wanting to create a family myself. Wow- to think like three years ago I was afraid of motherhood. Time really changes things. Questions like: “How does being a kinship adoptee affect motherhood?” & “Does it depend on the…
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