Navigating anxiety for the first time has thrown me for a loop, honestly.
Anyone else been there? It all kicked off back in December 2023, and like many things, I figured I could just sweep it under the rug. But that strategy didn’t fly.
Why now, and why me? These questions kept swirling in my head. Anxiety was an alien feeling for me, someone who typically has everything under control, especially after moving to a new city. It was scary, confusing, and downright frustrating.
I hadn’t realized the stress I was carrying, the mental strain of trying to fit in, until it manifested physically.
That feeling of being disconnected from yourself, of having no say in what your body’s doing – it’s a unique experience, especially for Black women.
So, I’m on this journey of understanding anxiety and not suppressing it, and I want to share how I am navigating it step by step with yall.
As adoptees, we carry hidden stresses that can rear their heads unexpectedly. Instead of brushing it aside, I’ve been exploring what helps.
Here are three things that’s been working so far:
- The How You Feel App: Before my social media hiatus, a psychologist mentioned an app called “How We Feel.” on X (formally Twitter). It’s a journaling tool for emotional wellbeing. Thirty days in, and I’ve already recognized patterns and gained insight into my emotions. You can download it on Google Play and Apple. I find it refreshing to understand the meanings of emotions.
- Calling in Community: Being honest about my anxiety was a game-changer. Admitting to my best friend that I’d had what felt like a heart attack was the first step. But it wasn’t until February’s end that I fully opened up, reaching out to other Black women, especially adoptees, who might understand. It’s okay to ask for help; you don’t have to face it alone. And this – I couldn’t face alone. The mind is complex and we need each other.
- Going to the Doctor: Listening to my body was crucial. The coping mechanisms I knew weren’t cutting it, so I sought medical advice. Understanding my body’s signals and having a plan brought some peace of mind. At first I was timid to go to the doctor, but I needed answers. If you feel like you should go to the doctor’s – go. If financial or accessibility barriers prevent that, call you local 211 for resources and immediate help.
I can’t explain why this anxiety hit now, but if you’re battling it too, don’t soldier on alone.
As Black women, we’re accustomed to being self-reliant, but with mental struggles, seeking support can make all the difference.
If you have tips or encouragement for dealing with anxiety, please share below. You never know who might need it – including me.
From my desk with love,
Teisha
Adopted Black Girl 