Growing up, I found myself navigating a household where verbal expressions of love were sparse. At the time I didn’t realize how it would affect me in the long run, but now I am finding out.

While my adoptive mother showed her affection through actions, I longed to hear the words “I love you.” 

This disparity between our love languages led me on a journey of self-discovery, a path I’ve walked with confusion, determination, frustration and patience. 

Reflecting on my experiences, I can’t help but wonder: have you ever felt this way too?

Whether in your past or present, have you found yourself yearning for words of affirmation, especially during times of stress and uncertainty in your household as a Black adoptee?

As someone who understands these struggles firsthand as a Black adoptee, I want to offer you some words of encouragement – 15 affirmations to uplift you through the week:

1. Making space for your mental health doesn’t make you weak. 
2. Your soul is meant to shine bright. 
3. You are an inspiration to yourself and others .
4. Your thoughts matter and your opinion is valid.
5. Feelings are not always facts, its okay to let them visit and then leave. 
6. Enforcing your boundaries is respect. 
7. It’s temporary- the pain, the suffering, the hurt – light is on it’s way. 
8. You were blessed before you were born. 
9. I see you working when no one is watching, I am proud of who you are. 
10. It’s okay to cry and release what is inside. 
11. Your parents’ choices are not your fault. 
12. You have a community that will love you and does love you. 
13. Asking for help is a sign of strength. 
14. Being bold can also mean taking a nap. 
15. I love you, everything about you, everything that is within you – I love you. 

I hope this week treats you kind. You deserve to feel loved and appreciated, especially when life feels overwhelming. 

Affirmations may not be present in your current household or life, but may these words propel action within you, your community, and household to remember to validate yourselves and one another. It is needed and paramount in our Black adoptee lives. 

This blog feels like home with y’all. See you next time!

From my office with love, 

Teisha