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  • I keep finding love in weird ways…

    can a love that started in a phone call actually lash?

  • I met myself tonight….

    From my personal files, to remind you that I’m human —- just like you, I think it’s time I fully stop trying to be an image people want me to be. This evening, I was in the shower—one of those showers where you’re not rushing, just standing there letting the water run over you. The…

  • The Key Is Repetition

    It takes 5-7 times for something to stick—whether you hear it, see it, or say it. Knowing that… what if I told you loving yourself might take a minute—especially if you’ve spent years not knowing how? As adoptees, we can feel like we have to have it all together. Every step, every routine, perfectly mapped…

  • I Had No Idea Where To Start With Makeup! Let’s talk!

    Growing up, I didn’t have a mom who taught me about makeup. She didn’t wear much herself, so I had to figure it out on my own. And to be honest? I was terrible at first. It wasn’t until college that I stumbled across my first makeup tutorial by It’s MyRayeRaye on YouTube. I felt…

  • How Does the Nervous System Regulate When You’ve Always Been in Fight or Flight? And How Does That Connect to Adoption? Part 1

    Hey y’all, I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. But before we get into it—how have you been? How’s January treating you? Are you taking care of yourself? Okay, let’s get into it. If you’ve been following Adopted Black Girl for a while, you know I’ve been on a journey to regulate my nervous…

  • Rest Like You Mean It: Lessons from My Time Off

    I didn’t realize how much I needed this two-week rest until I took it. Believe me when I say that rest is essential—not just for the body, but for the mind as well. I had all these plans to do this and that, but instead, I found myself diving into my Bible, listening to sermons,…

  • Are You Listening To Yourself?

    Sometimes, I get frustrated when I don’t know how to listen to myself. It feels confusing at first, but then I take a step back and realize—of course, I struggle with this. It’s a new skill, and like anything else, it takes time to learn. This blog is for my fellow adoptees, especially those in…

  • Boston’s Not That Bad: A Journey to Finding My Place

    I never thought I’d say this, but Boston’s not that bad. As I drove home from an evening filled with laughter and connection with a new friend, I realized maybe that’s what I’ve been missing—a friend to help make this city feel a bit more like home. Have I been too quick to judge? Has…

  • 15 Affirmations for Black Adoptees

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    Growing up, I found myself navigating a household where verbal expressions of love were sparse. At the time I didn’t realize how it would affect me in the long run, but now I am finding out. While my adoptive mother showed her affection through actions, I longed to hear the words “I love you.”  This…

  • Anxiety as an Adult Adoptee?

    Navigating anxiety for the first time has thrown me for a loop, honestly. Anyone else been there? It all kicked off back in December 2023, and like many things, I figured I could just sweep it under the rug. But that strategy didn’t fly. Why now, and why me? These questions kept swirling in my…