Being the youngest of seven, curiosity was always part of who I was. I was often scolded for asking too many questions, for wanting to understand everything, for wandering mentally and emotionally beyond what felt “acceptable.” But looking back, I believe that curiosity is one of the reasons I’ve been able to continue to live…

can a love that started in a phone call actually lash?

From my personal files, to remind you that I’m human —- just like you, I think it’s time I fully stop trying to be an image people want me to be. This evening, I was in the shower—one of those showers where you’re not rushing, just standing there letting the water run over you. The…

It takes 5-7 times for something to stick—whether you hear it, see it, or say it. Knowing that… what if I told you loving yourself might take a minute—especially if you’ve spent years not knowing how? As adoptees, we can feel like we have to have it all together. Every step, every routine, perfectly mapped…

Growing up, I didn’t have a mom who taught me about makeup. She didn’t wear much herself, so I had to figure it out on my own. And to be honest? I was terrible at first. It wasn’t until college that I stumbled across my first makeup tutorial by It’s MyRayeRaye on YouTube. I felt…

Hey y’all, I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. But before we get into it—how have you been? How’s January treating you? Are you taking care of yourself? Okay, let’s get into it. If you’ve been following Adopted Black Girl for a while, you know I’ve been on a journey to regulate my nervous…

This week, I didn’t follow my own advice and came to the same tough lesson once again: sometimes, being kind without boundaries will leave you overlooked. Not just by others but by yourself. You start to think – what was going on? Like forreal – what was going on? There’s a line in Roddy Ricch’s…

I didn’t realize how much I needed this two-week rest until I took it. Believe me when I say that rest is essential—not just for the body, but for the mind as well. I had all these plans to do this and that, but instead, I found myself diving into my Bible, listening to sermons,…

Let me pour into you for five minutes with some affirmations and a quick quick story time. Happy end of September and start of October. What are some affirmations that you have for yourself this week? Let me know below. From my room with love, Teisha

Sometimes, I get frustrated when I don’t know how to listen to myself. It feels confusing at first, but then I take a step back and realize—of course, I struggle with this. It’s a new skill, and like anything else, it takes time to learn. This blog is for my fellow adoptees, especially those in…

‘Sure, I don’t mind’—those words signaled the start of a month that spiraled out of control. If only I knew what I knew now – I would have listened when my body froze at that moment. But I didn’t – and you know what – it cost me. August has taught me a powerful lesson:…

I never thought I’d say this, but Boston’s not that bad. As I drove home from an evening filled with laughter and connection with a new friend, I realized maybe that’s what I’ve been missing—a friend to help make this city feel a bit more like home. Have I been too quick to judge? Has…

Am I anxious or do I feel lost in life? Am I depressed because I’m learning how to be still or am I grieving the chaos that I am used to? In this podcast post, I want to talk about clarity and how being frozen in feelings can hinder your growth or even different parts…

I need the person who said the 30 somethings were more welcoming than the 20s to come to the front – IMMEDIATELY😂 It’s been quite a journey these last few months. Staring over isn’t easy but it is essential to the next levels in your life. If you’re currently going through this type of season,…

Navigating anxiety for the first time has thrown me for a loop, honestly. Anyone else been there? It all kicked off back in December 2023, and like many things, I figured I could just sweep it under the rug. But that strategy didn’t fly. Why now, and why me? These questions kept swirling in my…

I can’t believe it’s about to be November. Did 2023 even let us breathe? This is the time of year in my 9-5 when my students get antsy, overwhelmed, and mentally tired. Meetings are building up, roommate conflicts are brewing, and lunch never semes to be an entire hour. (Reminder, please eat your lunch). *Great…

September was such a fun month. It included travel, redecorating my new office, photographing a wedding, and finding a new favorite coffee shop. In September I explored. I entertained the lesson of intentional flow and I realized the power to shift and switch patterns when I needed.  I have been so intrigued with my self-awareness…

*giggles* – I know it feels like forever since we have talked. Because it has been. Lots of thoughts and growth have happened since I been away for a few months. When I first started this blog, I knew I wanted more spaces for Black adoptees who identified as young or adult women to breathe, feel…